Today I decided to write a special article. I’m not going to just give you useful tips and information about love and success, because for those concepts this isn’t enough.
Actually no one and no words in the world can perfectly describe them. We are used to receiving practical definitions for everything, but actually this is not the best way to really understand or assimilate something. This is just a way that can give us a general idea of the concepts, not a real perspective.
However, I believe we are not here to get ideas of things around us. We are here to live, to love, to experience, to risk, to lose, to learn, to fail, to win, to succeed. And for that, we have to know a few essential things.
So, make yourself comfortable and enjoy the reading!
The Importance Of Self-Knowledge
Our world and our society are not the most encouraging today. Actually what society encourages the most is the material world. This consists in: industry, appearance and people who have to fit in certain categories. The individual knows what he represents in a category, but he doesn’t know anymore what he really is as an individual.
The main purpose of society since it emerged was to establish a certain order and to help people collaborate for mutual benefits and positive purposes.
This is the main role of society and we have to remember it, because sometimes we get confused and we let it influence our personal lives. We start to follow trends, to fit in and to lose our identities only because we want to be accepted by others.
Everyone wants to be accepted and loved, but this is not the right way to do it.
Since childhood, we are educated to behave in a certain way and to learn certain things, but nobody ever tells us that we should first know ourselves.
Every single human is unique and has his own path, but, unfortunately, most of the people choose to have the same life as others and end up being alone and depressed. This happens because we never ask ourselves who we are and what we really want.
So before you start to do anything, you have to spend some time with yourself and you will be amazed of how much you will find. We are so complex, beautiful and interesting and there is no need to act like someone we think is better than us. There is no such thing. Real and honest people can’t be compared.
Let’s say you are a bad person, but you decide to change. It doesn’t matter what others think. First of all it matters what you think and the fact that you want to change. Seeing your defects is the first step and the most important one. Once you are aware of something you get also the power to change it.
This is not only what I believe. This is a natural law and the most beautiful thing at the same time. We should enjoy life and all the moments we get, good or bad. Good moments are happiness and bad moments are lessons, so we are always winners. We become losers only when we stop fighting. Life is an adventure, and how could we enjoy happiness if we have never met sadness?
Try to meditate and spend some time with yourself every day. It is very important to have your own moments, to calm your mind and your thoughts. It doesn’t really matter what you do. There are many ways to meditate like drawing, peeling potatoes or just having a coffee in silence (on my Tibetan Buddhist Mandala – A Very Interesting Story Behind post you will find the best definition for “meditation”).
Before you can really live and enjoy life, it is very important to know yourself, to accept yourself, to discover your infinite inner power which has been repressed over time, only because you never want to see it. The way you used to see the world will change, you will be able to love and to succeed, because the biggest obstacle is not around you, but inside you.
What’s the point of having success if there is no one you can share it with? What’t the point of your success if you can’t enjoy it?
Stop rushing to do this and that? Everything can wait, until you are ready, because YOU are in control of your life and it is your responsibility to make your dreams come true.
What LOVE Really Means
Everyone can define love differently, based on one’s experience. We used to generalize when we talk about abstract concepts as love and happiness. This happens because those concepts are not material. We can never see love, or touch love. We can’t even prove that exist, but we all know it is there and everyone wants it. What can be more beautiful than loving someone and be loved back?
Every bad in the world happens because of lack of love and the opposite of love is fear. We fear to love, because we don’t want to suffer, we fear to risk because we don’t want to lose everything, we fear to follow our dreams, because we believe we are not good enough to make it.
But why are we doing this? Why do we complicate things so much when in reality they are so simple?
Have you ever thought that maybe by risking you lose something that you actually don’t need? Did it ever happen to you to lose something and after a while to realize it was the best thing that could ever happen to you?
The only thing we have to do is to stay positive, be confident, have patience and work hard. That’s it! Life/the universe will do the rest.
When you really want something from the bottom of your heart, the universe gets the message and creates opportunities, because this is how it works. If we love, we will receive love, even more than we expect. Everything around us is our own reflection. If you love, the others will love you. If you are selfish, the others will be selfish. So before you judge someone, look inside you and see how things really are.
There are also bad moments, of course, but there is a solution for everything. Your life doesn’t end there. It is completely normal to have bad days, bad moments, bad periods, but everything in life is temporary, that’s why we have to live in the PRESENT MOMENT.
Now, going back to love, let’s clear things up. Love doesn’t appear only between a man and a woman. We love our parents, we love our brothers and sisters, we love nature, we love seeing people happy, we love moments, we love life, we love ourselves.
Sometimes people get confused and say they had bad experiences with love, only because they confuse love with some toxic relationships based on sexuality, obsession, possession and lies.
Love is much more than this. We used to say “we fall in love”, but actually we should say that we raise in love, we should feel compassion for others, we should be happy when someone makes it, we should try to be a better person every day.
Love has the power to make us superhumans so it is not something to ignore.
Love is life itself, it is everywhere, both around us and inside us. The only thing we have to do is to open our eyes and our hearts!
If you want to know more about LOVE, I recommend you to read my other post: How To Find True Love – The No Bullshit Guide. It will offer you a new perspective about life.
What SUCCESS Really Means
We say we have success when we have the life we’ve always wanted, generally when we have enough money to buy everything we want, when we are respected by others and when we feel we made it.
But here can be confusion as well, because not all the rich people are also successful people.
I believe we need money to become free, not to be rich.
On the other side, you have to know that success comes after a long road of failures, risks and hard work.
Alexander Graham Bell says: “The only difference between success and failure is the ability to take action.” and to never give up, I will add.
Successful people are balanced people: they wake up early every morning, they have clear goals, they stay positive, they work hard, with passion and motivation, they are disciplined and ready to take risks and sacrifices, they help others, they eat healthy food, they do sport, they find time for themselves to meditate, to rest and relax. And the most important thing: THEY DON’T DO IT FOR MONEY! THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY LOVE IT!
Here are The 17 Principles Of Success By Napoleon Hill from his book The Magic Ladder To Success (which I hardly recommend)
- DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE – a purpose is the starting point of all achievement; without a purpose and a plan, people drift aimlessly through life
- MASTERMIND ALLIANCE – consists of an alliance between two or more minds working in perfect harmony for the attainment of a common definite objective
- APPLIED FAITH – represents self-confidence and motivation; don’t you ever forget what are you working for
- GOING THE EXTRA MILE – is the action of rendering more and better service than that for which you are presently paid; when you go the extra mile, The Law Of Compensation comes into play (you will always receive more than you offer)
- PLEASING PERSONALITY – personality is the sum total of one’s mental, spiritual and physical traits and habits that distinguish one from all others; it is the factor that determines whether one is liked or disliked by others
- PERSONAL INITIATIVE – it is the power that starts all action; no person is free until he learns to do his own thinking and gains the courage to act on his own
- POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE – it is the right mental attitude in all circumstances; success attracts more success while failure attracts more failure
- ENTHUSIASM – it is the intense emotion known as burning desire; it comes from within although it radiates outwardly in the expression of one’s voice and countenance
- SELF-DISCIPLINE – it begins with the mastery of thought; if you do not control your thoughts, you cannot control your needs; self-discipline calls for a balancing of the emotions of your heart with the reasoning faculty of your head
- ACCURATE THINKING – the power of thought is the most dangerous or the most beneficial power available to man, depending on how it is used
- CONTROLLED ATTENTION – it enables one to focus the power of his mind upon the attainment of a definite objective and to keep it so directed at will
- TEAMWORK – teamwork is harmonious cooperation that is willing, voluntary and free; whenever the spirit of teamwork is the dominating influence in business or industry, success is inevitable; harmonious cooperation is a priceless asset that you can acquire in proportion to your giving
- ADVERSITY AND DEFEAT – many so called “failures” represent only a temporary defeat that may prove to be a blessing in disguise
- CREATIVE VISION – it is developed by the free and fearless use of one’s imagination; it is not a miraculous quality with which one is gifted or is not gifted at birth
- HEALTH – sound health begins with a sound health consciousness, just as financial success begins with a prosperity consciousness
- BUDGETING TIME AND MONEY – time and money are precious resources, and few people striving for success ever believe they possess either one in excess
- HABITS – developing and establishing positive habits leads to peace of mind, health and financial security; you are where you are because of your established habits, thoughts and deeds
Another Napoleon Hill book I recommend is Think And Grow Rich (the most popular). Here is the index of the book so you can make an idea about the content:
What do you Want Most?
Tributes to the Author
Chapter 1. General Introduction.
Chapter 2. Desire (The First Step toward Riches)
Chapter 3. Faith (The Second Step toward Riches)
Chapter 4. Auto-Suggestion (The Third Step toward Riches)
Chapter 5. Specialized Knowledge (The Fourth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 6. Imagination (The Fifth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 7. Organized Planning (The Sixth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 8. Decision (The Seventh Step toward Riches)
Chapter 9. Persistence (The Eighth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 10. Power of the Master Mind (The Ninth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 11. The Mystery of Sex Transmutation (The Tenth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 12. The Subconscious Mind (The Eleventh Step toward Riches)
Chapter 13. The Brain (The Twelfth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 14. The Sixth Sense (The Thirteenth Step toward Riches)
Chapter 15. How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
Chapter 16. The Devil’s Workshop (The Seventh Fundamental Evil)
Goals, Motivation, Hard Work, Passion, Balance
The first and the most important thing is to set up your goals. Think about what you like to do the most and how it would be to do it with passion and love for the rest of your life. Don’t think about money. This is the first mistake people make.
Think only about what you love to do, and do it with all your heart!
Don’t worry about money. If you really want it, you will find a way. Your mind becomes very powerful when is stimulated by something you love. This is the secret of success: Don’t do what brings you money, but what makes you happy. Money will come sooner or later and it will be more than you expect, because the universe is always rewarding the ones who work with passion, devotion and help others.
If you have your goals set, even if you do what you love, sometimes you will find difficulties, you will feel stuck, maybe you will fail and all those things are very discouraging, but remember: the secret is to never give up, because your goals are what you truly love, so no matter how long it takes to achieve them, it only matters you found your own path.
Also remember there is no such thing as failure. You fail only if you accept your failure.
Usually failures appear, because you are maybe doing the whole thing in the wrong way and the universe will intervene to give you a better opportunity. Real failure is to give up.
Always focus on what you do at the moment NOW and do it with passion and devotion. If you feel forced when you do it, it may mean you didn’t choose the right work.
Sometimes you will have to do works you don’t like only because you need money to start your real work, but remember that this is temporary and that success requires sacrifices.
Success isn’t easy, but is the best way to live your life: having a purpose, fighting for something big, helping people to become confident, helping people to be happy, spreading your own unique magic in the world! Those are priceless!
Everything is possible! You already have everything you need! The only thing left is to DO IT!
Don’t be afraid to do things in your way. You will be amazed of how many people will appreciate it. You want it or not, people feel when you are not yourself, because they can feel you vibrations, no matter if they are aware of this thing or not.
Be honest and work with passion! If you didn’t choose what you love, then change it! Don’t lose your time!
And here is the paradox: don’t lose your time, but don’t rush! This means you’re losing your time only when you focus on what doesn’t really matter to you. If you’ve chosen the wrong path, don’t worry! The good thing is that you realized it. Learn the lesson and go ahead!
Don’t forget about your health, your family your friends, your time. Find a balance between work, passion and yourself. It is not easy at the beginning, but you can do tests.
I can give you my example:
I used to have a very big mess in my life and one day I couldn’t stand it anymore so I decided to change.
The funny thing is I wanted to change things all at once. I set up a very accurate discipline program, but, of course, I couldn’t make it. I felt very disappointed at the beginning, but then I realized I didn’t do it the right way. You can’t change your life and your habits in one day, especially when it is a real big mess.
So I made up another discipline program for 5 weeks. I believed 5 weeks are enough for me to change my life GRADUALLY.
So in the first week my goal was to wake up at 7.00 a.m., and I did it gradually: minus an hour of sleep per day (I used to wake up at 12.00 pm, because I used to work in a warehouse from 2.00 pm to 10.00 pm), so this time I did it!
The next week I added 20 minutes of workout per day. I did it!
The next week I added 30 minutes of meditation per day. I did it!
The next week I quit my job and I started to learn online marketing. This time my goal was to work 8 hours per day. I did it!
The next week I added 2 hours per day of reading books. I did it!
After that I started to organize my activities every month better and better. So now I know exactly what I have to do every day and I do it with all my heart.
I have to mention that my mind is clear and calm now. I have interesting ideas. Sometimes I can’t believe that those are actually my ideas and everything is just wonderful! I feel full of energy and every day when I wake up, even if in the first instance I force myself to get up, then I remember how much I love life and I can’t wait to start my day!
Finally, after a long period of mess and confusion, I can say I feel alive and this is the greatest feeling that exist!
So, in terms of discipline, every single man will have his own way to do it. Mine is only a little example and it worked for me, but it may not work for others.
So, get to know yourself, meditate, think about what you love, set up your goals, work hard, take care of your health, take care of the ones you love, help people, find time to relax and love life!
Always remember who you are
Always remember that you have an infinite power inside of you. You can do anything you want. Just do it with love and passion, not for money, but for yourself, for people and for life! You are the only responsible for everything you have! And you are in control of your life! Just do it!
Here is a very motivational video by Lewis Howes – The best way to start your day. Enjoy!
I hope you found my post useful and if you have anything to ask or add about love and success, feel free to leave a comment below and I will be more than happy to make discussions with you! Blessings!